![Illustrated black and white image of trees on rocks](https://ca-times.brightspotcdn.com/dims4/default/60ade72/2147483647/strip/true/crop/3000x2000+0+0/resize/2000x1333!/quality/75/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fcalifornia-times-brightspot.s3.amazonaws.com%2F83%2Fae%2F12d0f8034672a92a4c28ae4c661d%2Fla-oe-wong-fathers-header.jpg)
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![Our family history begins with the Ming Dynasty, more than five hundred years ago.](https://ca-times.brightspotcdn.com/dims4/default/23c03b9/2147483647/strip/true/crop/975x1200+0+0/resize/2000x2462!/quality/75/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fcalifornia-times-brightspot.s3.amazonaws.com%2F97%2F52%2F84bc63724c238f5c31a2075819a2%2Fla-oe-wong-fathers1-new.jpg)
![When my ancestors moved south from central China in 1499, it determined our fates](https://ca-times.brightspotcdn.com/dims4/default/a4b4d5e/2147483647/strip/true/crop/975x1200+0+0/resize/2000x2462!/quality/75/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fcalifornia-times-brightspot.s3.amazonaws.com%2F95%2F20%2Fbed9d69c44e398f6b0b08ff7996a%2Fla-oe-wong-fathers2-new.jpg)
![Canada's 1923 Chinese Exclusion Act kept part of my family separated for decades](https://ca-times.brightspotcdn.com/dims4/default/7965b58/2147483647/strip/true/crop/975x1200+0+0/resize/2000x2462!/quality/75/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fcalifornia-times-brightspot.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fe6%2F54%2Fdaf01f8442e98df7ed5835515f72%2Fla-oe-wong-fathers3.jpg)
![My parents didn't grow up with their fathers around](https://ca-times.brightspotcdn.com/dims4/default/ba431c5/2147483647/strip/true/crop/975x1200+0+0/resize/2000x2462!/quality/75/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fcalifornia-times-brightspot.s3.amazonaws.com%2F6a%2Fb8%2F8a3516ad4a3d99d4ba814475b1ee%2Fla-oe-wong-fathers4-new.jpg)
![My maternal and paternal grandparents were victims of Chinese Communist purges in the 1950s and sent to work camps](https://ca-times.brightspotcdn.com/dims4/default/3246fe6/2147483647/strip/true/crop/975x1200+0+0/resize/2000x2462!/quality/75/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fcalifornia-times-brightspot.s3.amazonaws.com%2F7e%2F96%2F82caf2f546909ca52a9b0a18f781%2Fla-oe-wong-fathers5-new.jpg)
![We have a family history of separation. An inherited fracture. A legacy of longing.](https://ca-times.brightspotcdn.com/dims4/default/1481a24/2147483647/strip/true/crop/975x1200+0+0/resize/2000x2462!/quality/75/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fcalifornia-times-brightspot.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fe1%2F67%2F93a77e844db8aee60fee04cecfb9%2Fla-oe-wong-fathers6-new.jpg)
![When we experiment with Chinese brush painitng, I think about my forefathers](https://ca-times.brightspotcdn.com/dims4/default/84bf6fd/2147483647/strip/true/crop/975x1200+0+0/resize/2000x2462!/quality/75/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fcalifornia-times-brightspot.s3.amazonaws.com%2F57%2F7a%2F677bbb9d4f7a837369a8fc32f260%2Fla-oe-wong-fathers7-new.jpg)
![In this style of painting, what is absent is just as important as what's present.](https://ca-times.brightspotcdn.com/dims4/default/3852e37/2147483647/strip/true/crop/975x1200+0+0/resize/2000x2462!/quality/75/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fcalifornia-times-brightspot.s3.amazonaws.com%2F2c%2Fbc%2F99175ec54d1bb079e70dac9b2350%2Fla-oe-wong-fathers8-new.jpg)
![Legacy is not the same as destiny. We can't escape history, we also can't it let history determine our future.](https://ca-times.brightspotcdn.com/dims4/default/c1e4879/2147483647/strip/true/crop/975x1200+0+0/resize/2000x2462!/quality/75/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fcalifornia-times-brightspot.s3.amazonaws.com%2F33%2F67%2Fbecccabe48bfb181baa229d9a498%2Fla-oe-wong-fathers9-new.jpg)
Teresa Wong is a Chinese Canadian cartoonist and the author of “All Our Ordinary Stories: A Multigenerational Family Odyssey,” from which this piece is adapted.
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